Living Choices for Aging Parent

Are you impressed with your aging parent’s choice to live independently? Does it appear they have everything under control? Honestly, your parent could be hiding what is really going on in their day-to-day life.

Perhaps the most challenging aspect involved with an aging parent is assessing their living situation. On the surface everything may seem well. But dig down just a little and you may find another story. A key question to ask yourself is do you feel your parent is safe in their present circumstance. If the answer is no, then it’s time to look into a change.

Choice starts in the mind. Many elderly folks make up their mind to age in place. That’s an ideal situation so long as they are kept safe. A typical way to support this choice is someone (you, a sibling, close friend, care giver, etc.) lives in their home. However, for a variety of reasons this solution is not possible. If that is your case then changing their mind makes it easier for your own mental well-being.

Dictating the safest living choice for an elderly parent is not always required. Instead, a little manipulation can go a long way in bringing about a change of mind. Consider your parent’s attitude about their living status. Remember that how an individual feels about something affects their behavior. Using my case as an example, I appealed to my elderly parent’s innate need for safety. And continue to say “at least you are safe” regularly. Manipulative? Yes. But self preservation is a powerful motivator behind making a choice.

Living choices for an aging parent vary greatly depending on various factors such as their physical & mental condition, where they live (rural vs. metro), and how much assistance they really need. To get an idea of this last one might require you to spend some time (a couple of weeks at least) living with your aging parent to discover the ways they are actually struggling.

Next match up your aging parent’s particular capabilities with the living choices available. This can range from light (weekly stop by) to heavy (24 hour supervision). Making this choice may entail starting out light and progressively moving into heavier oversight until you feel your loved one is safely living.